Yesterday morning, instead of doing my bookkeeping, I wrote this poem ‘Speak My Language’. It’s the first poem I’ve written for a while.
It’s had more than 4000 views last time I checked on my facebook page, lots of lovely comments and I’m feeling the love.
I called it ‘Speak My Language’ because in order to give birth most effectively we need to be relaxed. Our care providers need to understand what we want and for that to happen we need to understand what options we have available and make our own assessment as to what is right for us…
Speak My Language
Would you be so kind,
Instead of writing I’ve refused
You could write that I’ve declined
When terms used are so much softer
Equal relationships can prosper
And I know you are an expert in whatever that you do
But I’m encased in my own body and I’m an expert in that too!
So that makes us kind of equal
When there’s choices to be made
And so I’d like to know the evidence
A balanced argument conveyed
This child inside’s my baby
And I’ll always make decisions
That feel right for our family
And are aligned with our visions
Please don’t talk through the surges
Because I need to concentrate
I need to focus on my body
And relax my mental state
The surges through my body, the sensations that I’ll feel
Give me time and hold my space, and the pleasure can be real
But if you meddle and you mess and bring fear into the room
My energy will be weakened and my confidence can’t bloom
I need that trust to set me free, to believe that I can
So please Healthcare provider, can you follow my birth plan?
Kati Edwards ©2017
We need to be involved in our care and we need to understand what is happening.
It’s no good if care providers are using unfamiliar language. The best health professionals explain really carefully what our options are and then let us decide which is the best course of action for our family.
They then support our decision.
It’s really important to take into consideration what our maternity healthcare providers tell us; midwives, obstetricians and so on.
However, there rarely is one course of action that’s the only one to take and different practitioners will of course, practice differently.
If you have any comments, please feel free to write in to me.
PS. This is the last day to book your space onto my group Hypnobirthing course in Flixton, Manchester THIS weekend 22/23rd July 10-5pm.